Background on Bajram/Eid:
Bajram as we call it in Bosnia is the internationally recognized Muslim holiday of Eid al -Adha. This holiday celebrates Abraham’s willingness to sacrifice his son in reverence to Allah (G-D). Allah, however, intervened and sent an angel to tell him to sacrifice an animal instead. The sacrificial animal is split into three parts. The first part is for your family to eat, the second for your friends and extended family, and the third for the poor. This year it started on September 11 at sundown.
A brief note on celebrating Bajram on 9/11 – This was quiet a significant realization I had that we were celebrating this holiday September 11th. The exchange program in which I am participating was created because of the horrendous events of 9/11. The Kennedy-Lugar Youth Exchange and Study Abroad program was created to build relationships of mutual trust, peace and understanding with people of the Muslim faith for ourselves and the next generation of Americans. A goal of the program is that we, as students, may bring back our insight and share it to begin healing the broken places within our own country. This 9/11 on the holiday of Bajram as I sat with my beautiful peaceful Muslim family they were the first ones to bring up the fact it was 9/11. My host mom held her hand to her heart and my host dad looked me in the eyes and acknowledged the sadness that so many Americans were facing that day. My host dad who has lived in Iraq had witnessed so much of the sadness that continued to resonate after 9/11. On this controversial day, I worked on peace and the preparation of celebration I was about to experience.
Play by Play of my Bajram:
9/11- Of course a thorough cleaning of the house must be done before Barjam arrived. We cleaned, we went to the market, we and cooked. Sabiha showed me and let me help make a traditional Bosnian dish called Pita that we would eat at our feast the next day (pictured below). At sundown my family brought me into the living room we opened the doors to hear the special call to prayer signifying the beginning of Bajram. My host mother covered her hair with a beautiful scarf that her mother had given her and then my host mom and father sat me down to observe as they prayed. It was one of the most intimate experiences I have been privy.
9/12-
6:00 am: I woke up to wish my host father well before he left for the Mosque and to hear the call to prayer. I sat on my balcony listening to the call to prayer. Then I went inside and my host mom and I watched the service on the TV. Women are not allowed to go to Bajram services. I know limited Bosnian and as I listened to the Imam give his sermon the words I heard, the most that I could understand were: love and family.
8:30 am: My host brother and his wife and their baby came over for a morning feast. We ate the pita we made along with peppers, meat, bread, soup. We sat around enjoying our full tummies for awhile. Everyone was dressed in their best even Hamza the 3 month old was wearing a bow-tie. The women covered their hair before going out.
11 am: It is custom to visit the graves of dead family members on Bajram. We all drove to the grave of my host sister in-law Meljiha’s father and uncle. The women went to pray first as is custom. I helped Meljiha sweep off the the graves as she wept. The women then prayed in front of the graves while I stood in reverence. After they prayed I thought I would share the Jewish prayer for death (mourner’s kaddish), so I said that prayer aloud in Hebrew. We returned to the car and the men went to the graves.
The picture of me above is near the graves.
1 pm: We drove to Melijha’s mother’s house where many family and friends joined us in celebration. I got a quick look at the 4 sheep alive before we started the sacrificial slaughtering process. The rest of the day we spent talking and laughing with the babies and kids while the men slaughtered the sheep. I could only bear to watch one of the sheep being slaughtered.
Process of sacrificially slaughtering a sheep (or other animal) for Eid GRAPHIC WARNING:
- Dig a whole. This is religious. According to Nedim (12 year old) the blood of the sheep goes into the hole washing away sins, his mom thought it might be a different reason. Anyway you need a hole to put the sheep’s head over.
- Drag the bleating sheep to the hole and lay it down- head over hole. Take your newly sharpened knife and slice a long incision along its neck.
- Cover your ears as the animal cries out for dear life.
- Chop off the feet and put them in a pile with the head.
- Take the now dead sheep to the hook you have rigged into a tree and put it through. Proceed to sheer the sheep.
- Take out all the organs and such and somehow sort it.
- Use the handy dandy Bajram meat bags for separating the meat that is going to the poor, friends, and family. This process is called Korban.
- Hand out the meat in baggies to designated people. We gave some to a shelter for the poor on our way home.
6 pm: We enjoyed another feast with the sheep we had just slaughtered.
8 pm: We drove home on the way stopping to give meat to the homeless. When we got home we received many guests.
9 pm- 12 pm: We had friends and family over to celebrate. We drank tea and ate baklava. It was such a warm and exhausting day.
9/13-
8 am: I woke up and walked out of my room to find we still had guests. I quickly went back into my room to change and joined everyone for yet another feast. We spent the rest of the morning with family.
5pm: We drove to my host dad’s sister’s house in a village not far from Sarajevo. We visited with them until late unto the night.
10 pm: We drove to my host sister’s house for more visiting and Bajram celebration.
I received time off of school for Bajram and the net day it was back to school.
What I learned over Bajram:
- When a Muslim baby is born a animal is slaughtered in their honor. Boys receive two and girls one. If you can’t afford one at the time of birth you can get one as soon as you can afford it.
- It’s OK to take a break for a few min alone in the bathroom and breath after meeting so many new family members and friends as it is overwhelming.
- You don’t have to understand or approve of sacrificial killing to respect and in fact love the holiday.
- Pita tastes the best when you make it.
- Smiles are the best answers to questions you can’t understand in a different language.